The triumph of failure.

This is the definition of failure.

A man in his prime, standing in front of those who would adore him, celebrating failure. In the rain.

To be clear, these folks, and the man, don’t care about failure right now. All they care about is his success. Adam Scott carried his own hopes and dreams, along with those of the Australian nation, to a victory at The Masters, one of golf’s most hallowed accomplishments.

But none of this would have been possible without a monumental collapse of epic proportions that occurred a mere 10 months ago on another grand stage in front of the entire world.

Scott held The Open trophy in his hands with only 4 holes to play. The only problem with that is they don’t let you hold the trophy until the tournament is complete. He had yet to play holes #69-72.

Four bogey’s later he got to watch in agony as Ernie Els claimed the championship for himself. Many of Scott’s colleagues were happy for Ernie, but were sick about what happened for Adam.

Openly recognized as one of the “best golfers never to win a major,” Scott had to live with letting one slip away, never mind having one taken away two years ago at The Masters when Charles Schwartzel birdied the last four holes to win.

So how did he respond this past weekend when once again, with 4 holes to play, glory was within his grasps? Two birdies, one on the last hole. When it seemed he might go all day without making a putt longer than 5 feet, he coaxed the 18 footer into the left edge of the hole, forcing the only competitor left on the course who could catch him to do something spectacular. Which he did. Two holes later, Scott ended the playoff with another birdie in the darkness of Augusta’s pines.

Many of you will focus on the place that is Augusta National, home to wealth and arrogance. Others will turn their heads away from a game that is often seen as the bastion of privilege and excess.

I see a lesson for the ages.

All that I follow in social media regarding life and leadership is reflected in this moment. Failure is the key to everything.

Failure is nothing more than a mistake from which we learned nothing.

Mistakes are the greatest teachers. I’ve often stated that life deals far more efficiently in “negative” reinforcement. Great athletes almost unanimously state that they learn much more from their losses and setbacks than from winning.

I firmly believe it is part of what has gone wrong in our culture. We have so stigmatized mistakes that we have lost the ability to embrace them for what they are, and that is the greatest opportunities for learning and growth. Let our children struggle, but be there to help them process the experience. Don’t let them FAIL. Make sure they learn from their mistakes. For me, that’s my most critical responsibility in raising my son.

Develop a human being that is capable of taking all the twists and turns of life and turn them into  something special, and maybe, just maybe, he can be like “Adam Scott” in his journey.

Celebrate mistakes, embrace imperfection, for those are the things of life. They make us real, authentic expressions of humanity, and without them we can never become that which we hope to be…

Champions.

GOD BLESS!!!

DISCOVERING THE PATH: God is not codependent and boundaries

In this edition, Richard and I discuss how boundaries play a role in the concept that God is not codependent. You can also read a bit of what Richard and I discuss here.

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GOD BLESS!!!

How Twitter made me a Top 100 “leadership” blogger

I will state from the beginning that, contrary to what Twitter “said,” this is NOT a top 100 leadership blog.

And I’m ok with that. Never intended for this to be anything but an outlet of sorts for me. I am not committed to making this anything other than therapeutic. My brother and I do a podcast that I publish through this blog, and it is of the same nature.

But I do love Twitter and enjoy accessing content and being involved in the discussion, particularly Oklahoma State athletics.

However, being “involved” in the discussion sometimes leads to unintentional results, such as what I’m about to share.

It started harmlessly enough.

There are blogs out there for EVERYTHING, and Leblin is one that indexes what they believe are the top 100 leadership oriented blogs. I read their post on the top 100 leadership blogs and noticed several people were mentioned that I enjoy following on Twitter, so I tweeted out my congratulations to those individuals…

BTW…If you are on Twitter, you should be following ALL of these folks. If you are not on Twitter, some of them are also on LinkedIn.

Of course some of those folks “retweeted” my post, as they are professionals at this and actually trying to promote their brand…

Then, because of Twitter’s 140 character limit, it started to morph…

And before long, it ended up here…

While I freely admit this blog is FAR from making that list, I did bask in my 2 milliseconds of Twitter glory, as it quickly vanished into the darkness of an ever scrolling Twitter feed.

And while this is meant to be a humorous post, I would also issue a warning…

Be sure to read FIRST, despite your desire to be “seen” in the conversation. You never know what kind of misinformation you might be promoting, although if it’s about me and it’s good, I’ll tolerate it for a few milliseconds.

GOD BLESS!!!

DISCOVERING THE PATH: God is not codependent, Chapter 2

In this podcast, Richard and I continue with our discussion around his philosophy that God is not codependent. We touch on prayer and God’s actions in the creation, as well as some of our own struggles to come to terms with our current faith beliefs.

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GOD BLESS!!!

Asking or telling? The great dilemma of leadership.

For most of our “leadership” lives, our success is defined more by our questions than our directives. Great questions lead to great resolutions.

But the time will always come when there is no time for Q & A and a directive must be given, simple and concise.

How do you define those moments? Is it about gut, about instinct?

For me, it is about “The Matrix.”

It’s about slowing down in the midst of chaos or panic, seeing the individual pieces of the puzzle, not getting hung up on egos or people and simply focusing on the process.

One of the business philosophies that I attempt to adhere to is the idea that nothing is so important, no emergency so critical, that 5 seconds of thought will ruin anything. Even a minute or two of deliberation, or even QUESTIONS, will not cause ereparable harm. This is not life or death. No one is holding a gun to our heads.

So essentially, in the end, as leaders we will ALWAYS have time for questions.

Let the inquisition begin!

GOD BLESS!!!

Today, I apologized.

We read about it all the time.

Leadership, at least the best form of it, is about service

At my current job, I am the conduit through which almost everything flows.

Our ability to service customers goes through me. I organize and plan the delivery routes for the next day.

Our ability to solve problems and address issues flows through me. I am the person people come to when they can’t figure stuff out. When any of our systems have issues, I’m the point person for resolving the problem.

It is ultra critical that I am patient and approachable. But, like all of us, I am fallible.

Last Friday, in the middle of a meeting that I didn’t think needed to happen, at a time of day that was truly inconvenient for me, I was called to deal with something that I really didn’t think I should have to deal with.

And I became impatient and unapproachable.

I ended up dealing with the situation anyway, but I did so in a way that was not, in my book, respectful or professional.

After stewing about it all weekend, I walked in this morning, settled in for the day, and the first chance I had called that person into my office.

And I apologized. And I explained my apology. Then I gave that person the opportunity to respond.

Only then did I take the time to coach that person on handling something that I didn’t think needed to end up with me in the first place. It was important for me to understand that this person was also stressed (customer service), trying to get things done at not just the end of the day, but also the end of the week.

Understanding.

Patience.

Approachability.

Service.

As leaders, our success depends on these 4 things. As human beings, these 4 things are required of us.

GOD BLESS!!!

DISCOVERING THE PATH: Golf in Atlanta

This episode of Discovering the Path finds us in Atlanta around ’96-97 playing golf at TPC Sugarloaf…which of course I can’t remember during the podcast…and discussing a very surprising action taken by our father.

This leads us to talk about the issues we all have with approval and self esteem in our lives. Enjoy!

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GOD BLESS!!!